"Your power to accomplish anything is just as strong, if not stronger, than your tendency to avoid doing what must be done."
When I first stepped away from the direction my life was going I remember feeling completely lost and if I’m being honest it wasn’t just a season of my life. It was years. Years where I had knowledge, ideas and goals for the life I wanted to build. But instead of putting that knowledge to work, I found myself doing something else without even fully realizing it at the time. I was avoiding. Avoiding decisions. Avoiding discomfort. Avoiding the steps that would actually move my life forward.
The strange part is that I was still using a tremendous amount of energy every single day. My mind was constantly working overthinking, planning, questioning, distracting. But none of that energy was actually moving my life forward. It was being used to delay action. It wasn’t until recently, while reflecting and doing a meditation that I connected the dots.
The energy I was spending trying to avoid the difficult steps was just as powerful as the energy I needed to actually take them.
Once that realization hit me it completely changed the way I think about discipline and motivation. Because one thing I’ve learned from coaching people and from continuing to work on myself is that most of us aren’t struggling because we’re incapable. We’re struggling because we’re avoiding the very things that would move us forward. It’s easy to think the problem is a lack of motivation. But if you look closely that’s rarely the case. Most people already know what they should be doing. Training consistently. Fueling their body properly. Going to bed earlier. Having the hard conversations. Setting boundaries. Taking the first step toward something they’ve been putting off.
The knowledge is there. The challenge is action.
Avoidance rarely looks like quitting. Instead it shows up in quieter ways. We tell ourselves we’ll start next week. We convince ourselves we need more information. We stay busy doing other tasks so we can feel productive without addressing the thing that actually matters. Something I read recently while looking into the neuroscience of motivation was really interesting.
Researchers studying motivation including work discussed through Harvard University’s Graduate School of Education describe two competing systems in the brain: approach motivation and avoidance motivation. (https://www.gse.harvard.edu/ideas/usable-knowledge/19/03/unlocking-science-motivation) One system pushes us toward progress, growth and reward. The other pushes us away from discomfort, uncertainty or perceived risk. When something feels difficult, unfamiliar or uncomfortable, the brain often defaults to avoidance because it temporarily reduces stress. That’s why putting something off can feel strangely relieving in the moment. But that relief is short-lived.
Because the task doesn’t disappear. It simply moves into the background where it continues to occupy mental space and drain energy. Neuroscience research also shows that this process involves the prefrontal cortex the area of the brain responsible for planning, decision making and self control. When avoidance patterns take over this system struggles to prioritize long term goals and the brain defaults to short term comfort instead of long term growth. Which leads to an important realization.
Avoidance takes energy. Think about how much effort goes into not doing something. The mental negotiations. The justifications. The distractions we create for ourselves. That’s energy. Real mental effort. And if you’re capable of putting that much effort into avoiding something, it means you already possess the power needed to accomplish it.
The problem isn’t a lack of discipline. It’s simply misdirected energy.
The same focus used to delay action can be redirected toward progress. And this is where real growth begins not when motivation strikes but when you begin directing your energy toward the things you know need to be done. Because the truth is, the things we avoid often hold the most growth.
The workout you keep pushing off. The habit you know would improve your health. The uncomfortable step toward a goal you’ve been thinking about for months or even years.
Avoidance protects comfort in the short term but it slowly erodes confidence. Every time we delay the work, we reinforce the belief that we won’t follow through. But the opposite is also true. Every time you choose action even a small one you build evidence that you are someone who does the work. The goal isn’t perfection. The goal is becoming the kind of person who shows up even when it’s inconvenient, uncomfortable, or unexciting.
Progress is rarely built through huge bursts of motivation. It’s built through small, repeated decisions to act instead of avoid. Once you begin redirecting your energy toward action, things start to change. Confidence grows. Momentum builds. Standards rise. And the challenges that once felt impossible slowly become part of who you are.
So I want to ask you: if the energy you’ve been using to avoid could be put to work instead, what could you accomplish starting today?
3 Actions You Can Take This Week:
1. Identify What You’re Avoiding
Take a moment to write down the task, habit, or decision you’ve been putting off. Naming it brings clarity and makes it harder to ignore.
2. Start Small
Break the task into a tiny, manageable first step. Even 5–10 minutes of action counts. Small wins reduce overwhelm and activate your brain’s approach motivation system.
3. Track Your Progress and Repeat
Do that small action consistently for several days. Track it, celebrate it, and let these repeated wins build momentum. Consistency turns action into habit and confidence into identity.
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